てもらう and てほしい timeline

While talking about てもらう, my teacher asked me what’s the difference between てほしい 🤔

I was mentioning that てほしい sounds demanding if you’re asking someone to do something for you. If it’s asking someone for a favor and I’d use てもらう. This feels more like てほしい vs. てもらいたい instead.

We talked more on the aspect of “timeline of events happening”.

Basics

• てほしい – Expresses my wish/desire
• てもらう – Focuses on me “receiving” the favor

Timeline of events

1. Nothing has happened yet, it’s only me hoping in my head
   お母さんに今日の夕ご飯を作ってほしい。
2. Asking mom for the favor
   お母さん、今日の夕ご飯を作ってもらえますか？
3. After mom agrees, I tell my brother that mom will be making dinner
   お母さんに今日の夕ご飯を作ってもらいます。

Notes

If still would like someone to do something with てほしい, usually people will add んですが to make it softer

レポートを確認してほしいんですが…