While talking about てもらう, my teacher asked me what’s the difference between てほしい 🤔
I was mentioning that てほしい sounds demanding if you’re asking someone to do something for you. If it’s asking someone for a favor and I’d use てもらう. This feels more like てほしい vs. てもらいたい instead.
We talked more on the aspect of “timeline of events happening”.
Basics
てほしい – Expresses my wish/desire
てもらう – Focuses on me “receiving” the favor
Timeline of events
Nothing has happened yet, it’s only me hoping in my head お母さんに今日の夕ご飯を作ってほしい。
Asking mom for the favor お母さん、今日の夕ご飯を作ってもらえますか?
After mom agrees, I tell my brother that mom will be making dinner お母さんに今日の夕ご飯を作ってもらいます。
Notes
If still would like someone to do something with てほしい, usually people will add んですが to make it softer
仕方がない (しかたがない) – “It can’t be helped” or “There’s no way around it” This expression is used when a situation is out of one’s control and must be accepted.
一応 (いちおう) – “Just in case,” “For now,” or “Tentatively” Use this word to indicate that something is being done provisionally or as a precaution.
壊れる: 自動詞; 壊す: 他動詞 テレビが壊れた。 (てれびがこわれた。) – The TV broke. 子供がおもちゃを壊した。 (こどもがおもちゃをこわした。) – The child broke the toy.
Grammar
Noun + に基づいて (にもとづいて) – “Based on” or “According to” This grammar point is used to express that an action or decision is made in accordance with a specific standard, rule, or information. Example sentences:
法律に基づいて行動する (ほうりつにもとづいてこうどうする) – To act based on the law.
彼の意見に基づいて計画を立てた (かれのいけんにもとづいてけいかくをたてた) – I made a plan based on his opinion.
んです (んです) – Providing an explanation or reason Use this grammar point in both questions and answers to seek or give more information. Q: なぜ遅刻したんですか? (なぜちこくしたんですか?) – Why were you late? A: 電車が遅れたんです。 (でんしゃがおくれたんです。) – The train was delayed.